Love, Concession and Change 💙🦋

Hi! Welcome back to my blog.💛

It's been a while. Has it? I don't know. 

Anyway this is just a random topic actually. I was watching an episode of Grownish and I got the inspiration. Trust me I haven't had real inspiration to write on my blog for a while but I got it lately and I'm writing it now so I don't get lazy and toss it aside. Literally.

So Love, Concession and Change. They're three different things actually and we often mix them up.

The Advanced English Dictionary defines

Love as a strong feeling of affection for sb that you are sexually attracted to:

 Concession as something that you allow or do, or allow sb to have, in order to end an argument or to make a situation less difficult

It also defines change as : to become different

So these three really define our relationships with people. 

They are not just the basis, they are the foundation.

I get that when you love someone,you want to please them and make them happy. And sometimes that may mean going out of your way just so they're satisfied. That is love. Leaving your comfort zone just to make the person you love comfortable.

Now when you make concessions in a relationship,it means you're changing who you are so whatever situation you're in becomes less difficult. Its just like you having an argument with your friend and then bending yourself to make the problem simpler.

 And most times when we make concessions, that unique person that we are and that we are loved for changes. We lose those beautiful things in us just to make someone else happy.

Now change.......this can actually be good and bad.

Let's look at someone who smokes for example. If a smoker decides to stop smoking for someone, we can say that's a good change.

This is not the same thing as concession.

I mean, when we change one attitude in us that's hurting the people around us or making them uncomfortable, that's change.

When we change who we are just to make someone else happy, that's concession.

So ask yourself, do you love them or are you just making concessions? Or maybe you're changing for them?

I make concessions a lot and trust me, it affects mentally.

One day you'll just open your eyes and find out you've lost a part of yourself.

That's when you realize that you need to leave anyone who's causing you to make concessions.

Concessions are unhealthy, especially in romantic relationships. 

Concession is not love!

It's just concession. That's what it is.

As we grow up, we'll meet people who will make us feel like we need to make concessions to maintain relationships with them. But these are just lies.

Anyone who cares about you would never make you bend yourself. 

Keep this in mind next time you find yourself making a concession.

Sometimes we do need change so we can move forward but not concessions.

Know the difference. Stop making concessions!

Love yourself enough to not make concessions 🤍

That's the little one I have for you today. Till next time.

I love you guys.

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